Even if we switch “wife” to “girlfriend” it would cover half of airsofters at best, considering the average age in our community. No surprise, most of us probably started with airsoft long before any “wife” or even “girlfriend” were any serious issue. But, without any doubt, a happy moment will eventually come for most of us and we will find our “second half”, and that can cause some unexpected problems. Those of you who are still waiting for that wonderful moment will probably laugh at the miserable rest of us, but don’t worry – he who laughs last, laughs best.
Basing on our experience and numerous observations during our years of airsofting, we can roughly define some number of different scenarios concerning the issue of girlfriends and/vs airsoft. Of course the list is not final.
No time for being soft here – believe us, this scenario is much more frequent than you think. In this case not only does your wife/girlfriend not approve your hobby – she virtually forces you to abandon it. How does it usually happen? That Saturday when you want to play airsoft she wants you to go with her and visit her parents. And you just have to go, out of question! Milsim on Sunday? I don’t think so, we need to go shopping. GF Point over the weekend? Honey, we have our anniversary! You won’t be running through forests and mountains like some idiot on our anniversary! And it ends up like that – everytime you want to go on some airsoft event she’s got something better to do (for both of you, of course). Sometimes she can say something classical like “Yeah, sure, whatever, do what you want and have fun, I can forbid you” but we all know what it really means.
In this case it’s much less obvious than in the first scenario but in the end the result can be pretty much the same. Imagine this guy from your squad – always first to fight. Searching for weekend skirmishes, trying to convince everyone to go. Even driving your lazy ass to the site! And suddenly… It’s over. Soon after he found his GF or got married he hung his replica on the wall and left airsoft for good. When you call him and try to convince to go on some weekend shooting you will probably hear something like “Sorry guys, today me and Christe are going to cooking classes and it’s gonna be amazing, I’m out”. Cool event on Sunday? “No way man, we’re going to watch “Perfect Housewife” today, so not really, maybe next time”. And so on, and so on. He appears to be quite happy, but you and your team just watch in horror as the great warrior slowly turns into…
Not so bad scenario after all 😉 In this case our second half treats our hobby with a friendly distance. She doesn’t make any comments when we spend 30 minutes in front of a mirror looking for that one perfect setup of our plate carrier, but we know she laughs a little when she’s telling that to her friends. She grins when she has to make dozens of photos of our new gear (because we have to show it to our teammates). Sure, sometimes she will scream a little when she finds another BB in her powder compact, but her general attitude towards airsoft is positive. Well, she doesn’t really understand why would anyone choose to wake up at 6:00 on Sunday, drive 50 miles to god-forsaken, old military base and come back late evening looking like death, but she can see how satisfying it is for us. Occasional mockery in not that high price 😉
Approach of true airsoft alfa male and “real man”. Sometimes comes with a little disrespect for those who decided to choose different way of dealing with their girlfriends. Airsoft Alfa Male goes to airsoft skirmish whenever he chooses to. If his woman does not approve – well, that’s her problem. And she is the one to adapt. In some way it the opposite of the first scenario. At first glance such approach can appear to be quite attractive (“a woman won’t tell me what to do and when to shoot!”), but is it really that effective? Hard to say.
And here we are on the second side of our little “airsoft spectrum” – many of you may consider it to be the perfect one. Not only does you partner have nothing against your hobby – she even actively participates! We’ve seen different scenarios – she never played airsoft before but he convinced her and she liked it, or they met on the airsoft battlefield and so on, and so on. Advantages are quite obvious – common hobby & passion, joint trips and a lot of emotion 😉 Just add some jealousy from other guys and tons of awesome pictures from airsoft games (girls in uniforms look amazing!) And, last but not least, you won’t be hearing things like “You’re buying this silly stuff again! When was the last time you took me to some nice restaurant?”
Of course, as always there is a big, hairy “BUT”. We’ve seen airsoft couples like that and we can tell that such a perfect picture can sometimes have flaws. First of all – a lot of us treat airsoft as a kind of escape from everyday stuff, where we can relax with our friends, tell some stupid jokes, act like crazy and “reset”. Kind of a manly adventure where “she” stays at home and you go with your buddies to shoot, scream and have a lot of fun. Sometimes the presence of your beloved girl can ruin such beautiful plan. We’ve once heard someone talking about “carrying the firewood into the forest” and he surely had some point.
Which scenario you think is the best? As always the truth is somewhere in between. What do you think about that? Did you find yourself in any of the above scenarios? Or maybe in your case it looks completely different? Tell us in comments!